Facing yet another Valentine’s Day without a satisfying relationship?
Maybe it’s because, like so many people, you’re looking for the kind of love that exists only in romantic films, where the main characters find their one true soul mate and everything works out perfectly. But believe it or not, there really is more than one person out there who’s right for you. Here are a few other popular love myths that can sabotage your relationships, plus ways you can improve your odds of success:
Opposites Attract
The myth: Dating someone so totally different from you balances the relationship.
The problem: It’s not a good sign if everyone you know asks, “Why are you together?” Picking someone outrageously different can indicate a “look how cool I am by association” insecurity.
The solution: Spend time getting to know each other well. “Gap Guy” plus “Goth Girl” works only if they share the same values, goals, desires and life principles.
Love at First Sight
The myth: Your eyes meet from across a crowded room, and you’re quickly convinced that this is the person you’ll marry.
The problem: Acting quickly on chemistry without taking the time to learn what ingredients you’re mixing can blow up in your face. A relationship based only on physical attraction leaves nothing to create a bond in the long run.
The solution: Trade contact information with the nice person you’ve been chatting with who made you laugh and the person you were instantly attracted to, then date both to see how those relationships develop.
Absence Makes Love Grow
The myth: Playing hard to get makes the object of your affection want you even more.
The problem: Out of sight always ends up being out of mind. You can bet that if someone doesn’t have a problem not being around you, that person doesn’t truly care.
The solution: Stop pursuing long-distance affairs. They Lived Happily Ever After
The myth: Once you get married, everything will be perfect.
The problem: Have you seen the latest divorce rate stats?
The solution: In the immortal words of Journey, “Don’t stop believin’.” Work toward creating your own fairy tale.
