For children and teens, the holidays offer many possibilities for the “perfect” celebration which because it’s “perfect” is rarely found to exist. High expectations which can’t be met, the pressures from advertising, the business of the season and the challenges of blended families can all contribute to a sense of let-down, disappointment and emptiness.

But with a little planning, families can decide together what is important to them and what choices will add value and meaning to the season. Here are some ideas that might make the holidays easier, happier and more memorable:

Be realistic with yourself and with your family about expectations. Know that there will be both positive and negative moments and feelings about the holidays. If you’re realistic, you’ll remember the good times and forget the rest.

Carefully plan and prioritize so that you and your family don’t over schedule the time. Perhaps have each child pick one or two things that they really want to do.

Remember to take good care of yourself so you aren’t stressed-out and crabby.

Don’t expect perfection in yourself or your kids. It doesn’t exist except in the movies or on TV. Let your kids make a few more mistakes and be less critical.

Be more accepting of them and yourself. You’ll find if you settle for less, you’ll be enjoying more.

If possible, have your family do something nice for another family. Acts of kindness are good modeling for your kids and a reminder to them of what the holidays are all about.

Try to keep your kids’ schedule as normal and consistent as possible. With all the excitement and sugar that go along with the holiday season, kids can easily become sleep deprived, worn-out and irritable. They won’t be able to enjoy the holidays nor will you.

The holiday season is a special time of good cheer and the warmth of family and friends. If you can remember that – and remind your family of that as well – you’ll all enjoy your time together and carry its memories for years to come.

From all of us at YES, best wishes to you and your family.

Patti Skelton-McGougan is executive director of Youth Eastside Services. Since 1968, YES has been a lifeline for kids and families, offering counseling, outreach and prevention programs to help foster strong family relationships and a safe community. For more information, call 425-747-4937 or go to www.youtheastsideservices.org.